RESPONSIBILITY……..wow, how often do we feel responsible when we really I am not responsible. How often do you feel responsible because……… so many reasons….maybe a bit of guilt!!!!!!

I have had to question whether I am responsible!!!

Well, YES, I am responsible for myself….my health, my well-being, my lifestyle, my fitness, my interests etc.,

The rest of it is that I am happy to love people and care, but I am not responsible. I can direct and assist, but they have to choose from what info they receive. Love them and make them feel good about themselves so they can make good choices. That’s the best.

Have a great day  ali

Wellness

     is about

                           how U feel

                                 about anyone or anything at a given moment.

Since I have been on holidays,  I have been reading alot again. It is an opportunity to find new and fresh ideas how to be nice to yourself 24/7.

I read authors like Tolle, Hicks, Hay, Wilde, and many more to realise how many rules I can release from my head.

Rules are for guidance rather than living a rigid lifestyle, like I used to.  Love seems to allow me  to question the rule.

I am learning to “be” and be loving, practise makes perfect.

*tiredness,                                          *lack of laughter,                                   *being busy all the time,       

*finding distractions from anything the same,                            

*lack of interest in surroundings even though they are   supposedly happy.

In fact I thought it created stress.                So, a person overwhelmed with responsibility of ………………whatever , can be overwhelmed and therefore create a feeling which stops them from being there happy self.

Is overwhelmed only created by thinking there is too much to do and it’s unmanageable (no clear picture).

Is overwhelming when too much is happening at once.

So overwhelming can shut you done if you don’t notice it. The energy around you feels like you are being dragged down, too tired to contemplate the job, or shut off to too much noise or happenings.

When my friend and I discovered how OVERWHELMED feeling had strained our relationship, we investigated what may have created this feeling. We found that the to do list was so big and never ending the task was becoming unbearable.  We put the to do list on one side and released the responsibility of it, knowing it will always be there. We chose the one job that was needed the most and set out to do that before even looking at the next job. We then had a laugh and went about our job much more pleasantly. We allowed time for leisure and lunch then moved back to the next job.

OVERWHELMED must be something that some people have real trouble with.

My friend and I became aware and could see when the overwhelmed feeling   came,  so we made up a fun word that would change our feeling straight away.  Finding a word was fun, as we would call out words and see how they affected our feelings. Once we found a word, it all was much better. “Fruit”, was the word, probably because it was something I look forward to and it had a good feeling.

There is nothing nicer than a good feeling that makes you smile from within.

love to you all. ali

In my job I see alot of lost children. Some who are being smothered and other that have no one. Each of us wants to be the best parent, but hey how hard is that sometimes. 

How would you parent yourself? What sort of parent would like to have, so you can feel loved, acknowledged, accepted and able to develop skills for life.  Would you like a parent to yell at you, I know I hated being yeld at, I avoid yelling at my children and find another method if possible. Working at stategies to be a good parent is sometimes difficult when both are working or busy.

I have come to the conclusion that our family works as a team. We find out the jobs and share with whoever is about. If you are out doing your thing then maybe you could do another job later on. Everyone has commitments and everyone has jobs, but everyone needs equal fun time too. I’s all divided and appreciation is BIG. Support is also part of the team. It certainly isn’t left to one person. If need be,  we sit and make a list together on a Sunday night and manage our time. Businesses do that, why couldn’t families do it to. A good organisation is a happy one, same with family.  

Many of us could be less lost because we have direction in our week. We could feel appreciated for small things and feel part of a connection to others in our team. Feeling connected seems such an important part of life, so why not.

Lost comes from being disconnected. Connect with your family and friends. Remember the ones who love you, and remember most of all you are loveable. You are allowed to be loved.

I must fly……have a great day     ali  www.whyisthishappeningtome.com.au   

we forget to acknowledge our achievements. The effort we make trying to learn and understand things. The assistance we give others by just being nice, we forget to acknowledge all this. Take a moment and look back at what changes you have made and why. The only question we probably could ask ourselves

 ”Is it a good thing, the changes in oneself?” 

What is the top attitude  or feeling that you carry with you. Is it love, is it payback, is it forgiveness, It is the feeling you carry when doing everything. Is that what you stand up for?

Maybe if we acknowledge our effort we would feel more worth and more acceptance. Appreciation and gratitude.  have a great day…ali      www.whyisthishappeningtome.com.au

When do we  allow ourselves to feel good, when no one is there or our friends are there. It’s all good.  Let’s try it. Can you find a time you once felt safe, maybe along time ago. Remember  that  time you felt the smile, the joy, the fun, the one moment you notice someone happy with you. Think back to that time. Can you describe the feeling. Did it feel warm? did it feel safe,? did it feel free? did it feel alive? did it feel refreshing? there are so many feelings that could describe that moment. The idea is to picture it in your mind, or listen to the sounds, however you remember that moment.  Make an effort to practise and practise that feeling so it reminds you that you are allowed to feel good. This is your self-esteem, the part that is allowed to be happy and feel ok with ones self. It is a feeling, and the feeling is yours. Keep the feeling, repect it and therefore respect yourself.   Have a great day, the sun omes to great you every morning as a new day with new ideas and thoughts.   take care   ali   www.whyisthishappeningtome.com.au

We are very much a spirit or an energy or whatever people like to call it AND we are very human as well. How do we put these together. This is the beginning of wellness. We disagree with ourselves, which is our mind trying to work out and then our inner self which has no mind. (It has intuition.) No one really teaches us about that part of ourselves.   SUDDENLY an emotion is created and than our behaviour is an indicator of our interpretation of the meaning.  This meaning is the inner thought program from the mind which may or may not agree with the real you. This seems to be our major struggle.

Developing our beautiful self, we need to create feeling words for our mind so it can envelope those words while living our daily lives.  Example

Love-  a BIG WORD….many, many definitions.  What is YOUR definition of love, it will depend on how you act.   Love could be described as _  kind,  but kindness doesn’t mean slavery,

                                                            – caring, but caring doesn’t mean do other’s jobs

                                   – compassion,  but compassion doesn’t mean to feel the feeling they have. You need to accept how they feel, listen, accept and assist in support where possible. Direct them towards expert advise where ever possible. Remember it is not you who has the feeling. If you can feel love for them then they have a better chance to help them selves with your love energy . Energies cross over into each others space —love energy v sad energy(if they are sad) is better than both being sad.

Love has an acceptance energy about it and compassion tp support them to just see it as it is. Kindness can create a positive direction IF they choose it. They must choose. I suppose this is the human in us that makes the choice.      Wellness is a balance of being human with an open heart.    ali 

When does that moment come when we question love and analyse our relationship. Is our relationship of love when someone does it for me or when someone has open their heart to allow you to open your heart.

Love is so unpredictable yet our logic is very predictable. When we try and make sense of it we can’t unless we begin to doubt our relationship. It makes no sense, just like love.

The more you think the more you struggle.

 What are your values????   Do you have any or do you do whatever comes.

When you fall in love   -   often  all your values seem to walk out the door.  Total trust……..mmmmmmm

It is a good thing? , however our values of respect of yourself and others still need to be hovering around.  “Actions speak louder than words”,  who said that, BUT very true.

You can feel great love, but the only question you may ask is how am I being treated. Love brings kindness with no payback. Sharing without complaining. No asking for favours, just because they love you. Love is truly beautiful when both parties enjoy each other with mutual respect.  Not one give more than the other. Being supportive without doing it for them. If love really lasts it is a choice of enjoyment not of duties.